Hey babe, let’s have some real talk right now….

Are you holding on to a relationship that you deep down in your heart of hearts, that it's time to let go? But for some reason, you can’t?!

For some reason, you are hanging on in the hope that he will turn around and say I will give you everything you want?

But alas! After months (even years of waiting…. You still feel as though you’re in limbo… (ARGHHHHH!)

I know where you are babe!

I was there!

YEP, I too was wracking my brain thinking “what’s wrong with me?” “why can’t he tell me what I want to hear?!” “why can’t he commit?!”

Then of course, I spiralled the rabbit hole of thinking- “OMG am I wasting my time… but I love him… but I don’t want to keep waiting”

It was a real WHAT DO I DO moment for me.

The answer…..

Looking back…. The answer was simple….

I was busy wanting him to love me and tell me that I was loveable, when, I didn’t believe it myself.

I didn’t believe that I was loveable, I didn’t believe that I was worth love. I wanted him to do it for me.

Well my lovely, we get what we need not what we want at these times.

It was up to me to fix my crown (yes, I believe we all wear a crown because we are owners (queens) of our life) and take back my power. It was up to me to find out why I was ‘needing’ him to fix/ fill me in order for me to feel ‘whole’.

Sound familiar?

There’s a saying “projection reflection”

Which means, whatever we are projecting outwards onto other people, is a reflection back on to us.

So, when I was coming from this place of ‘neediness’ in WANTING him to commit to me and love me. It was actually a reflection of what I needed to do for me to heal.

So, I straightened my crown,

I got a piece of paper and a pen and I wrote down all the things that I was emotionally seeking from him in order for me to feel loved and whole.

I then changed it in a way for me to do it myself.

I committed to me and becoming the best version of myself. I found the root cause of where I felt unloveable, unworthy.

Was it an easy road…? Absolutely not!

Was it worth it…? Absolutely YES!

So, babe when you are ‘needing’ someone to make you feel whole, feel love, feel worthy…. It actually means that that person is YOU who needs to make YOURSELF feel whole, loved and worthy.

You are actually projecting outwards what you are needing to heal inside.

See, how crazy and amazing this realisation this is….

But now that you know it, you can heal what you are projecting outwards to other people.

Once I did this, I no longer operated from a place of 'neediness', and moved on to find my king.

I am now a queen with a king! (yes, I say king, because just like us queens who are owners of our lives, I believe that men are kings- owners of their lives just as much)

When you stop attracting from a place of need, you attract the person that is of your equal.

So, babe, you have the power, my love, it’s up to you to take hold and heal you for you because you are worth it.

xx Hannah