Queen,

Out of curiosity, have you ever wished for more confidence?

Or maybe said aloud, “if only I were more confident!”

The thing with confidence is that we all have and are confident

Queens. But over time from different scenarios and situations, it gets dimmed down.

From my years of coaching, I have identified 3 key problems that women who have been heart-hurt experience are:

● Lack of confidence

● Uncertainty

● Unhelpful Boundaries

The BIGGEST and most common one, being a lack of confidence, especially after heartbreak or embarrassment.

And I can totally relate to this.

I lost the majority of my confidence when I walked in on my ex-fiance and another woman. That hit me hard because I relied on him to make me feel wanted, valid and of course beautiful. And when that went, my world that I knew of crumbled. Looking back on it now- I needed that breakdown to breakthrough.

After walking away from that relationship over a decade ago, I have been building my inner confidence. Because just like a muscle, if we don’t rebuild and strengthen our confidence, we stay at that level making us believe that we don’t have confidence.

Reality is, that we don’t lose our confidence, it just gets dimmed from situations that make us feel small/ unworthy/unloved/make us look silly- our ego gets bruised.

A close friend of mine used to be restricted by her lack of confidence, to the point, that she would always let people dictate her movements and future, especially when she was in

a relationship.

And this was driven by her being a people pleaser mixed together with how much her inner confidence had been dimmed from previous relationships.

After her last heartbreak, she decided that enough was enough and chose to explore deeper into her ways.

By exploring her past and diving deep into all her layers with healing, she discovered that she had been carrying around emotional trauma for decades- ever since her very first serious relationship. Where that relationship was with a controlling person who wouldn’t let her do anything without him being right by her side- no freedom.

So, from a young age and built over time, she learnt that she couldn’t trust herself, let alone think for herself and make choices without getting permission from her partner. She eventually became reliant on other people to make choices for her, and to be led, she learnt that her voice wasn’t valid and that without being in a relationship she was worthless.

H.E.A.V.Y! right?!

But possibly not far from many women’s reality, and possibly unbeknownst to them.

Below is my quick inner-confidence -check-in activity.

This will help you bring to surface your current level of confidence and how to tap into your highest potential, so you can connect with your inner-confidence and start living

from that space.

Ready….

Right now, on a scale of 1-10 how confident are you? 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest… write down the first number that comes to mind.

Now, what number would you love to be?

If there is a gap… ask yourself:

1) What’s stopping me from going for…?

2) Where else am I not showing up confidently in my life?

3) How long has this been stopping me from… xzy?

4) What would I be/act like if I was 10/10 confident?

5) How is me being 10/10 confident NOT a problem?

You see Queen, you’re untameable, your level of inner-confidence is unlimited all you need to do is tap into it. And you can do this by doing something each day to build your inner confidence muscle.

My 3 daily faves are:

● Compliment someone

● Set a daily goal

● Practise positive self-talk – “I can do this” “I am more than

Enough”, “I am can handle whatever comes my way”.

These daily practises can help build your inner confidence, just like my friend who now struts with inner-confidence and pride.

It’s time to Strut Your Confidence!

xx